Wow, yes, holding down Alt while clicking the "Resolution: Scaled" radio button in the System Prefs -> Displays
helped show the resolutions I needed. That's a pretty horrible user interface decision on Apple's part. A radio button that says "Show more resolution options" would be a much better choice.
In my case the machine kept booting up using 800x600 (I have a KVM switchbox that only switches VGA connections, so I have a MacMini DisplayPort-to-VGA adaptor). So when I clicked "Scaled", the only options were 800x600 and 1280x1024, both of which look horrible; this monitor's native res is 1920x1200 which I've used for almost a decade through the VGA connectors on various machines including mac + windows + linux. This is the first time I'd encountered a machine that couldn't recognize the display's native resolution.Couldn't figure out why it was giving me such a limited list of resolutions.. weird.
Anyway, the Alt-Click on the "Scaled" radio button gave the extra resolution options in the chooser.. great!