im having a hard time updating my ipad 2

You need to connect to iTune (computer) to update software

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4972

So, what are your problems?

Do not update your iPad to iO7 becuase most of my family friends have exprienced horrible lag. Its not compatible with iO7 ; the hardware does not meet the specific requirements

I have no problem with my iPad 2 since upgrading to IOS 7.0.3