It's much simpler than that. I have two phone lines: L1 used for incoming calls, the other (L2) used for outgoing and also receiving faxes. A fax machine is attached to L2. Usually, I set the fax machine to forward incoming calls to my eFax number, since I receive no voice calls on L2.
When I fax from my Mac, I usually plug in L2 and let OS X's fax function dial the remote fax. No relay service, no separators, nothing. Just the recipient's fax number. The fax seems to be sent okay, and the fax log shows that it went to the recip. But then I receive the fax on L2 -- either on paper, or via eFax to my email. (I don't remember -- perhaps when I get the fax on paper I'm using L1.) In any case, it's strange, since I'm only dialing a recipient's fax number, nothing else!
Bambi