notes/reminders with CALENDAR integration?

i am trying to wrap up my organization of life related task needs and now that i am on Mavericks and iOS7 i am trying to do something that seems perfectly necessary but i am thinking is perhaps not possible to do in Mavericks/iOS7?

is there some way for me to keep a set of notes/reminders so that i can tag these with DATES/REMINDERS that will alert me with in a visual and auditory way on my iPhone (and possibly my laptop)? is there a way to do this so that i can SEE these reminders in my mac CALENDAR APP?

i am trying to figure out how close i can get to this and i am basically dumbstruck to imagine that i can only add dates to my notes/reminders but that i cannot have them automatically added to mac CALENDAR - or that alternatively i can add a note/reminder to mac CALENDAR but that i cannot actually see this in a list with other items.

i have done some research on this but does anyone know how close can i get to this? will moving to Google Calendar imrpove my options?

i am currently using Notational Velocity, Mac Reminders and Mac Calendars with a sometime usage of Evernote for more labor intensive notetaking. Evernote seems to have a hackaround that involves inserting a linked url into mac Calendar but this seems quite butch to me and is a non-starter for my needs.