I can't seem to find "Remote" anywhere within the menus.
Turn on HomeSharing in iTunes.
There is no need for a code.
Why does the remote app show me a 4 digit code to enter into iTunes to pair it?
READ the article from which this was posted and follow the setup instructions.
There is no need for a setup code.
HossmanK wrote: Why does the remote app show me a 4 digit code to enter into iTunes to pair it?
Because iTunes on the computer you are trying to connect with is version 9.2.1 or earlier.
It ended up being that my work computer is on a wired network and my phone was on the wifi. It worked beautifully when I got home.
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