Well before I got your reply, I turned off iCloud, rechecked the Back up to this computer setting in iTunes and did a restore from there. Now some of my Notes have returned, but not the one I am looking for.
I never used iCloud before, but I switched to iCloud for a try sometime between when I created this note I want back and when I just used the Restore from my computer. In other words I think I made the important note, then switched to iCloud for backups but did not activate Notes in those settings, now that I noticed all my notes are gone... I cannot figure out where to find the important one that disappeared and I think it is due to switching from computer backup to iCloud backup without Notes selected there.
It has to still exist somewhere right, why would the cloud erase my Notes just because I do not have them selected for backup there?
Why would iTunes erase my notes at all, even if I did an OS upgrade?
Frustrated...
But from your suggestion, I already have Gmail activated on the phone and regularly get emails on the phone or the laptop, does not matter where I am I am always signed in and they sync.
My sidebar on Gmail used to have some imap addresses and since I did not know what they were used for I think I deleted them off the list and do not know how to make them re-display through gmail settings. Could they have my notes backup in there on gmail?
Thank you if you know these answers and sorry to be such a dummy!