HP Officejet 5610 All-in-One

The HP help people have finally given up on trying to make my Mac see the Color Options tab in their print software with my set-up. They now say, "It's an Apple problem". If I could see these settings I'd be able to adjust the HP defaults for print-outs (by saturation, brightness, density, hue, contrast, etc) once and for all so I'd get closer to what I see on screen printed out in front of me. Without them I have to change everything on a trial and error basis each time in Photoshop. I've read about it in the HP manual and seen it work on another (cheaper) HP printer on a similar Intel iMac but with the All-in-One I just get the screen saying "No User Selectable Settings" - which HP say should not be the case. Anyone have any ideas? This screen seems to be vital - unless of course there's a better way of synchronising the perfect image I see on screen with what I get out of this printer?