just updated my ipad4. now its in recovery mode it wont leave it and even tried that fancy little home and lock screen trick. It is telling me i need to restore. I do not want to because i have not backed up my pictures. HELP!!!!!!!

Sorry, but they are already gone when you are in recovery mode. Your only option is a restore.

It's too late now to worry about not having backed up. You have to restore the iPad or .....

A. You can have a device that still has all of the photos on it but you can't get to them because the device doesn't work

or.....

B. You can restore, lose the photos and have a functioning device again.

well I dont want to lose these pictures - so is there a way of getting them off - do you think if i took it somewhere they could do it so I do not lose them? There has to be a solution other than that to lose them.

If you did not have photo stream on so that they would go to another iOS device, then there is no easy way to retrieve them. Unfortunately, I think they are gone for good.