Q: how do i remove a device

Computers require Authorization... Devices require Association.

Computers:

If you no longer have, or access to, the computer(s) you want to deauthorise,

Log in to iTunes,  go to "view your account info" on the itunes store,

Deauthorise all five,

(Please Note: this can only be done Once every 12 months)

Then re-authorize your current Computer(s) one at a time..

Authorise / Deauthorise About  >  http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1420

Devices:

Associating a device to your Apple ID  >  http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4627