Q: how do I delete apps on my ipad that aren't showing up on itunes

Hello jimsacto,

This can be done directly on the iPad by holding your finger on the app that you'd like to delete until it wiggles. Once it's wiggling, tap the 'x' in the corner of its icon.

Apps

iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

Before you delete, find out if you'll be able to download the app you deleted again (it depends on where you live).

1. Tap and hold an app you want to delete.
2. The apps will begin to jiggle.
3. Tap the "x" on the app you want to delete.

How to delete content you've downloaded from the iTunes Store, App Store, iBooks Store, or Mac App Store

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT5772

Cheers,

Allen