Well I did it, I completed the process of removing iTunes, cleare everything all my old playlists, I decided to start from scratch, just to be sure. I then added my music and movies back into iTunes and told it to manage all my files, make a copy on my media drive, then I removed the duplicates (old location) I still have back up copies on my big back up drive.
So everything is in the iTunes media folder and the folder is on my media drive. lookes pretty clean. I opened iTunes, all is there and no playlists, so starting from clean slate.
I turned on Genius and nothing, it gets as far sending the info, then it says it is taking a long time to send the info, then it comes back and tells me iTunes is busy, or the Apple Store is busy and check my internet connection, try again later. I have tried 15 times so far. My connection is fine, I am getting 30mbs download speed, 12mbs upload speed, latency ping at 19ms through my router, and it is hard connected, not using the wifi.
I ma going to try a direct connection to the cable modem next and see if that works, as some one suggested that the firewall in my router may be an issue, but **** it worked before, this last **** update to iTunes.
Results: Directly connected my computer to the cable modem, no go, so I do not believe the router is the issue.
So I am at my wits end on this one, this *****, man I hate doing iTunes updates, as there is always some issue when the update iTunes and or iPhones....... **** that Apple...lol