Q: My password is not allowing me to update software. How do I reset my password it is not prompting me to reset password.

To update you iPad to iOS 7.1.1 you need to enter your passcode not you password. The passcode is the four digit number you enter when you first turn on your iPad or when you wake it from sleep after an Autolock. If you do not remember your passcode you will have to restore your iPad. See this Apple support page:

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1212