Hey brewcrew81,
Thanks for using Apple Support Communities.
It sounds like you can see the airplay icon and can select the device and it tries to display something. Its good that the devices are up to date. One thing you may want to check is the settings of the router you are using and make sure it is using the recommended settings.
iOS and OS X: Recommended settings for Wi-Fi routers and access points
http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4199
iTunes: Troubleshooting AirPlay and AirPlay Mirroring
http://support.apple.com/kb/TS5209
If you are experiencing intermittent playback or significant network lag with AirPlay, it could be due to a weak Wi-Fi connection, interference, or the distance between the Wi-Fi router and your AirPlay-enabled device.
- Ensure that other devices aren't trying to stream to the same Apple TV at the same time.
- Ensure that your Wi-Fi router is set up with the recommended settings for the best performance.
- Certain external devices, such as microwave ovens and baby monitors, may interfere with a Wi-Fi network. Try moving or disabling these devices.
- If your wireless and wired networks are the same, try connecting your Apple TV to the router via Ethernet instead of Wi-Fi.
- Use the Wi-Fi network troubleshooting guide to resolve interference and other issues.
Temporarily disable firewalls (both network and local) and security software. Security software and firewalls may block ports that AirPlay uses to stream content. You can often resolve issues with security software by updating, correctly configuring, or uninstalling security software.
Have a nice day,
Mario