you are not helping me at alllllllllllllllll

Just enter all the possible different email addresses it could be, then sign into each one until you find the reset password email. If that doesn't work, on the Apple website you will find a contact details page in which you can call Apple directly. If that doesn't work, go into an Apple store and speak to a member of their team.

If you can't remember what you set your rescue email address to be then follow the instructions on the HT6170 page that you posted from :

If you can't reset your security questions

Contact Apple Support in either of these circumstances:

• You don't see the link to send a reset email, which means you don't have a rescue address.
• You see the link to send a reset email, but you don't have access to email at the rescue address.

A temporary support PIN isn't usually required, but Apple may ask you to generate a PIN if your identity needs to be verified.

When they've been reset you can then view and/or change your rescue email address for potential future use : http://support.apple.com/kb/HT5620

Or, if it's available in your country, you could change to 2-step verification : http://support.apple.com/kb/HT5570

Apple ID: Contacting Apple for help with Apple ID account security