UPDATE:
I wanted to share the past few weeks in the hopes that it helps.
The Mac expert at work said when he took my MBP apart that "the cable was not seated properly", and his utilities don't even detect the display (which sounds very odd considering you CAN SEE graphics - it's just a backlight issue. If you hold a flashlight to the little apple on the back, u can see the screen is displaying something, and an external monitor works fine (as long as I have logged into the laptop already.. apparently, you have to have an external kbd connected to get output to an external monitor during post. I noticed if I completely power down, I have to use a flashlight to see when it's prompting for login to decrypt the disk, and after I do that it starts outputting. I have learned a **** of a lot about mac troubleshooting in the past couple months...).
The laptop works for roughly a week, then goes black and stays that way for a week or so... I am convinced at this point that it's just a hardware problem, and I need to replace the unit. I believe I DID get lucky with all the resets and permissions fiddling, and it's solely subject to luck if it's going to work on a given day...
I plan to just connect external kbd/mouse/display and use it l like a PC. It's got decent speed, and plenty of RAM. I looked at the MBP docking stations, and they all seem to have some at least one serious draw back. Maybe a USB or thunderbolt port rep is the way to go. I need to do more research.
Disappointing... Glad it's my work laptop. Would not want to drop another $2500 on another MBP. Now worried about the iMac I bought back in Nov... I sure hope it lasts more than 2 years before I start having serious issues.