my remote wont turn the appletv on even after changing battery and unplugging everything and plugging it back in

Nothing, the light didn't flash at all? If so you either have a dead remote or a dead Apple TV.

If you have a Mac you can try pairing the remote with it to test. Go to System Preferences->Security & Privacy and unlock the panel. Click the Advanced button and look for the Disable Remote Control Infrared Receiver checkbox. Clear it and click the Pair button. If the remote is ok you should be able to pair it to the Mac.

If you can't pair the remote it most likely pints to a bad remote. If the Apple TV still won;t respond then you need to get the Apple TV looked at.

Good luck

I tried the forced reset with the remote but no lights, nothing. Doesn't mean its something with the apple tv or remote: i used a micro usb cable to plug the apple tv in to my computer, connected it to iTunes, and did a reset there. Now it's working great again, the only downside being having to set up the preferences. But I'll take that over having to buy or replace something that's not broken.

You can also try Apple TV: Pairing and unpairing the Apple RemoteLearn how to pair and unpair your Apple Remote.

Unpair the remote and then pair it again.

Check that the power to your Apple TV is on. This may seem silly, but lots of people turn the power switch on the wall off without realising.

I'm having the same problem. All connections have been checked and reset, etc. It was working last night, did an auto update today, and now won't turn on.

Try to force a reset by holding down the Menu and Down keys for 6 seconds. The light on the Apple TV should start to blink rapidly. Let go of the buttons and the Apple TV should restart.