Q: iTunes doesn't give me the option to 'manually manage music and videos'?? Just videos.

Hi there itsthenoise,

It sounds to me like you are going to the correct place to try and enable manually manage music and videos, but the checkbox only says you can manually manage videos. According to the following article, that sounds like what you would see if you two have iTunes Match enabled. 

Manage content manually on your iPhone, iPad, and iPod

 

• You can’t manually manage music while using iTunes Match on your device.

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All the very best,

Sterling