kurtj29 wrote:
Thanks for the input. This is just not a "use-case" that Apple covers very well. I gave up and just logged the new phone into my single Apple ID and restored. Worked like a charm but then had to fix the fact that both phones are getting the same phone calls and text messaging. But now that is all fixed.
Both phones still on single Apple ID.
Apple needs to address this use case.
You shouldn't be using the same Apple ID on two different user iOS devices. Each individual should have their own Apple ID, for iCloud/iMessage/FaceTime. If you want to share purchased content, either use Family Sharing, or do what we did before that was an option: log into the Apple ID in iTunes & App Store, download the purchased content you want to the device, then sign out of the (friend/family member's) Apple ID, then sign back in with your personal one.
And it's already 'addressed' by Apple: https://appleid.apple.com/faq
Your Apple ID is what identifies you, as an individual, to the Apple systems. If you use the same Apple ID in iCloud on two different devices, then the system assumes that you're wanting to share things like your iCloud contacts & calendars between the two devices. In fact, the reason you were both getting the same phone calls & text messages was because of the Continuity feature. Don't want that to happen? Don't use the same Apple ID as your wife in iCloud on your individual devices. And Continuity is explained very well here: Use Continuity to connect your iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, and Mac - Apple Support
Your failure to understand the design intentions of the technology does not equate to a failure on Apple's part to properly explain the feature, or provide resources for you to educate yourself. Not everything can be designed to be intuitive to everyone. That's where the personal responsibility of self-education comes in.