iphone 4s loud speaker and audio accessories conflict

Perhaps if you actually described the issue in detail instead of posting half sentences' someone may be able to assist.

it's by design that the speaker of ios devices are muted if they are connected to a wired or wireless headset

Please recognize that English may not be everyone's first language around here....

OldGnome wrote:

Please recognize that English may not be everyone's first language around here....

Which is why the OP has been asked on several occasions to describe the issue with as much detail as possible.

...and yet, Rudegar was able to diagnose the problem and provide a reasonable response.

Interestingly, I reached the same conclusion as Rudegar.

{shrug}

Well done.