Iphone shows 96 photos, sync memory show 1130 photos how do I find out what they are and get rid of them

You're looking in the wrong place. The "96 photos" are in iPhoto on your Mac and are being synced to your phone. This doesn't include all those taken on the phone.

To see the total number of photos on your phone:

Settings > General > About > Photos >

To see how much memory photos are using:

Settings > General > Usage > Storage > Manage Storage >Photos & Camera

To select what to delete:

For photos taken on the phone: Photos > select photo you want to delete > trashcan on bottom. Note that deleted photos are stored in the Recently Deleted album for 30 days. To delete them immediately, select them again from that album > delete or select Delete All

For photos synced to your phone from your computer, deselect them in iTunes and sync again. They can't be deleted directly on the phone.

Where do you see that there are only 96 photos on the phone? What do you see in: Photos > Albums >

See if this helps you https://discussions.apple.com/docs/DOC-8281