my wifi is greyed out and Ive done all the suggested steps as well Ive also reset

Not sure what all you have done so please start by trying the following Apple Support article. Please post back your results an include the make & model of your computer, Internet modem, and wireless router.

What are "all the suggested steps"

And if you really have tried them all, what is left for us to try?

We don't know what device is having problems. Could you please tell us?

What operating system is this device using?