Mary Crane1 wrote:
Maybe this will help, but apple really should fix this. We've all being sharing apple IDs for awhile and it's been fine.
mary
Sharing Apple IDs worked when the only thing you could do with them was buy music and apps. But the features in iCloud have become greatly expanded, allowing sharing of documents, calendars, contacts, calendars, notes, Reminders, iMessages, Facetime calls and the ability to handoff messages and phone calls to other devices sharing the ID. So Apple IDs have become very personal, and the old ways don't work anymore. These are great features that I use many times in a day, from updating spreadsheets on my computer, then viewing them and modifying them on my phone and/or iPad and vice versa. I can create a shopping list on my computer and view it on my iPhone when I'm at the stores. Or I receive a call on my phone while sitting at my computer, and I can answer it using the computer rather than having to drag out the phone. I receive a text sent to my phone, and view it and answer it from my iPad. There are a myriad of combinations of these features that make life easier. But with this "personalization" of Apple IDs comes the fact that you cannot prevent your personal uses from being shared with someone else who has the same Apple ID. Thus, there would be no way to prevent my children from seeing my text messages (or me theirs) if they share my Apple ID. My wife could see my shopping list and reminders, including the gifts that I'm planning to get for her birthday. While I don't have any secrets from my wife, anyone who does have secrets from their SO will not be able to keep them secret if they share Apple IDs.
Apple's solution to the fact that Apple IDs are now highly personal was to create Family Sharing. It still allows you to share what you want to share, but also allows you to NOT share what you don't want to share. The only way to share an Apple ID and NOT share personal data (and I mean much more than recent call lists) is to go to Settings/iCloud on both (or all) devices and turn off all of the iCloud share options. Then you will be back to the old way. But you will be giving up a lot of very useful features.