Can my MacBook Pro run more than 8gb of RAM?

I own a mid-2010 13" MacBook Pro and I'm looking to upgrade it now to increase its speed and capacity instead of buying a new computer. Overall it still runs quite well but has slowed down a bit over the years.

Here's the standard tech specs that Apple recommends for macbook pros and upgrading RAM: MacBook Pro: How to remove or install memory - Apple Support

This page states that mid-2010 13" macbook pros can have a maximum of 8gb of RAM, but I've read elsewhere that for some people they used more than the recommended 8gb for their model (2011 15" macbook pro). Here is their quote "I wasn't sure if this memory would work in a early 2011 MacBook Pro. The computer is originally rated for a maximum of 8GB of memory. All my Internet research indicated that 16GB would work, and it does."

I would preferably like to get at least 2 8 GB RAM cards into my macbook pro for a total of 16 GB, and at most 2 16 GB RAM cards for a total of 32 GB.

what do you guys think my mid 2010 macbook pro is capable of running here? do you think i could get away with 32 GB of RAM? 16 GB? Or should I stick with the maximum of 8 GB?

Also I'm wondering if a product like this will work well for my computer, (http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16820226301) it says it's compatible with mid-2010 macbook pros on the page, or what other RAM cards can you guys recommend as being high quality, affordable, and long lasting.

Thanks

p.s. - the video card is currently NVIDIA GeForce 320M 256 MB, and I wouldn't mind eventually upgrading that to a better and faster video card for gaming and such, if anyone could recommend a great video card and size that would be faster and render higher quality whilst being affordable that would be very helpful, thanks.