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I assume that the router function of the Xfinity modem/router is still enabled, as you indicate above.
With the AirPort Extreme powered on, hold in the reset button on the back of the device for 7-8 seconds and release. Allow a full minute for the AirPort Extreme to restart to a slow, blinking amber light status.
Verify that an Ethernet cable connects from one of the four LAN <--> ports on the Xfinity modem/router to the WAN "O" port on the AirPort Extreme
Click the WiFi icon at the top of your Mac's screen and look for a listing of New AirPort Base Station. Just below that, click on AirPort Extreme

That will get the setup "wizard" running. It will take a minute to analyze the settings and then suggest a setup for the AirPort Extreme, which will look similar to the example below, except that you will see a picture of the AirPort Extreme.

Network Name..........Type in a simple name for the wireless network
Base Station Name..........Type in a simple name that you want to call the AirPort Extreme
Password..........Type in a password to be used for the wireless network name and AirPort Extreme
Verify.........Type in the same password again to confirm
Click Next
The "wizard" will set up everything for you automatically. When you see the message of Setup Complete, click Done.
The AirPort Extreme should have a green light and you should be able to connect to the wireless network that you named.