i can't connect my hands free kit

Hey Welshman64,

I see that you’re having an issue with connecting your iPhone to your car. Here is an article with some troubleshooting steps to help you address this issue:

Get help connecting your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch with your car stereo - Apple Support

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT203412

Take care, and thanks for visiting the Apple Support Communities.

-Braden

I have read in other threads that if you have buttons on the steering wheel, to use those to connect instead of buttons on the stereo.

Have you consulted your owner's manual on how to pair their system with a bluetooth device?