I have tried everything. iPhone 5 wont connect with iTunes Mac

I have tried everything online I could find. I have tried resetting network connections, restoring iPhone, everything. I have an iPhone 5 and a Late 2011 Macbook Pro running latest OS X and iTunes. I have tried reinstalling iTunes, updating drivers, everything. My iPhone will charge on my Mac but I cannot find it in iTunes. I recently did a clean install of my Macbook and transferred over old backed up files (I didnt restore the computer from a backup).

Can someone please help? My phone and Macbook are far out of warranty but I would like to update the music on my iPhone, any help is greatly appreciated.