Apple ID issues with the Family

All,

When someone calls me using FaceTime Audio/Video, my wife's phone/mac also receives the call. When someone tries to screen share, I don't get the invite, but my wife gets the invite. We have been to the manage my apple id website and my email is not listed in her email list and her email is not listed in my list. Same for the phone numbers. We've looked at individual preferences on FaceTime and so forth.

Any ideas?

Thanks