screen sharing - always log in as yourself

Hi,

I have a mac mini which I often connect to from my laptop. To ease the process I have saved the connection to the desktop (Connection -> Save as...) so all I need to do is double-click on that icon. Because usually someone is logged into the machine (as in using it physically via its keyboard and mouse) screen sharing always comes up with a dialog saying "User X is currently using the display on Macmini. How would you like to connect?" At this point I must always switch from the default "Ask permission to view the display" to the second option which is "Log in as yourself".

Is there way to save this preference in the connection shortcut on my desktop? I never want to screen-share, but rather open a remote session with my own desktop.

Thank you