Hi Gail, thanks for quick response...I will give you all the details I have!!
old email address shows up in settings/icloud (both on my ipad and apple phone). When I try to turn off 'find my ipad', i get response 'enter the Apple ID password for xx@xxx.com.au to turn off find ipad (which is the old/defunct problem email and is now dead).If I use my current password, it fails.
I am able to sign into Apple website and also icloud.com using my current email and current password. There is no reference to the old email in either accounts.
Also if I go to the website 'iforgot.apple.com', and I enter the old defunct email, I get the following response 'xx@xx.com.au is not an Apple ID'...!!!!
As I said above, I did try to change my current email in my Apple account to the old defunct one, but it automatically sends an email to that defunct address with a code to be used to verify/ in my apple account, only then will it allow the change....not much good to me though.
Look forward to your response as I am getting very frustrated with this,
P.S. I am in australia, so we have a bi time difference (assuming you are in USA), many thanks John