I know the feeling, wife vs life... 😉
If you use Canon, use either the Canon software (I would never mix Canon & Nikon) or indeed Apple software (e.g. Image Capture). I nowadays transfer all files (RAW+JPG) from camera (or sometimes card reader) through Adobe Bridge/Get Photos from Camera to an external HD. There I split up the file types: the JPGs go into Photos (previously into iPhoto), the RAW remain on external disk and are selectively processed with either Adobe (Camera Raw or Lightroom), Aperture (still doing a good job) or DxO Optics Pro.
Mind you: always keep an up-to-date card reader (these things are amazingly cheap) at hand.