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Not quite sure what the question is. Can you provide more detail?

If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your device is disabled - Apple Support

The article Tim provided a link to contains pretty much the only options available to you. It is also hard to believe that you have actually tried everything in it in the short amount of time since he posted it. However, once you have exhausted that, contact Apple Support as it suggests (last step).