rockmyplinsoul,
Ha, that's ok, I welcome your assistance!!!!
I don't see anything where I can downgrade, if I could I would. It just really irks me that they removed this feature. Either they didn't realize the new format would break the iCloud sharing or what, but if they did it on purpose shame on Apple. I was told to complain (by Applecare) and Apple usually listens so if anyone wants to complain feel free to do so at apple.com/feedback.
In the meantime I downloaded Simplenote and my wife and I can share notes and edit them like we did on iOS 8 Notes. What I don't understand is why when you add a secondary iCloud account under "Mail, Contacts and Calendars" they give you the option to turn on Notes. To me I hope this is an oversight and they will fix it with a future update.
Thanks for all your help. Please go to the feedback section and complain, complain complain!!!!!! I keep submitting complaints. Hopefully they listen.
BTW, I upgraded to El Capitan and it works flawlessly between my iPhone and Mac, just need it to work between iPhones!!!! Ugh, so frustrating.
Jeremy