how do i transfer my ipod and its music to a new laptop

Is your laptop a Mac or PC? You're not giving us any information on the issue. However, Apple has a nice article on how to do this for both Macs and PCs. I have included a link to the article below.

How to move your iTunes library to a new computer - Apple Support

I hope this resolves your issue.

Best regards,

Austin

The best way to transfer music to a new computer is to use your old computer as the source, and transfer your complete iTunes folder. Then, iTunes on the new computer looks like iTunes on the old computer, because you are using the same iTunes library. If you can do this, please post back. iPods are not meant to be your iTunes data backup.

By design, iTunes syncing is typically in one direction only, from computer's iTunes library to iPod. The exception is songs purchased from iTunes Store (because iTunes can verify ownership). However, there are third-party methods and utilities that can transfer from iPod to computer. If you do an Internet search on something like "ipod transfer music," you should get some useful links, including an article by CNET on the topic.

Once the song files are on your new computer's drive, you can add them to the iTunes library.