I figured out how to fix the problem, at least for me. With phone connected to iTunes, un-select to sync music (so no music is synced to your phone). Then unplug phone, log out out 'My Music' on phone. then log back in. That's where a bunch of songs would still be on my phone- which weren't synced from computer iTunes. If you click on the 3 little dots after each song, you can 'delete from my music'. This will remove it from phone but not iTunes Library and those songs will no longer be checked automatically. I don't know why hose particular songs were stuck on phone in the first place- maybe those are purchased with phone, not iTunes from computer. I am skeptical on purchasing with phone again, I probably won't unless I really have to. I still haven't received any type of help from anyone at Apple for this...