my iphone,ipod and ipad are not connecting on to my i tunes player on my windows laptop

Try the following:

1. Open Control Panel > Device Manager
2. Plug in your device
3. Locate Universal Serial Bus Controllers > Apple Mobile Device USB Driver.
   It is also possible the device may show under Imaging Devices, Portable Devices or Other Devices or as an MTB USB Device.
4. Right-click and select Update Driver Software...
5. Click Browse my computer for driver software
6. Browse to C:\Program Files\Common Files\Apple\Mobile Device Support\Drivers or
   C:\Program Files (x86)\Common Files\Apple\Mobile Device Support\Drivers
7. Click Let me pick from a list of device drivers on my computer
8. Click Apple Mobile Device USB Driver
9. Click Next, then Close and exit Device Manager

Or try If iTunes doesn't recognize your iPhone, iPad, or iPod - Apple Support.

Failing that try a full tear down and rebuild of iTunes as set out in Troubleshooting issues with iTunes for Windows updates.

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What does 3 mean???? What the heck is a Universal Bus Controller and where do I find it?

With luck it becomes evident after you've done 1. & 2.

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