calender family member colour coding

No, unfortunately it will only do the color selected for your shared calendar. Send feedback to Apple.

http://www.apple.com/feedback/

I'm not sure that is 100% correct. I share a calendar with my son at college via iCloud. I can go to the Calendars setting by tapping at the bottom of the calendar page, then tap on the ℹ for his calendar and select a color for his calendar, and he can do the same for me.

But if you create a shared event with him, it will show up as the same color as events he shares with you. You can create personal events with different colors but all shared events will be in the same color whether you create them or another person creates them. They can be a different color on the other person's calendar but whatever color you select for shared will be the color they show up as.

I think we are reading a lot into what the OP asked. They stated that they share calendars, so they seem to have separate calendars, at least in my estimation. As I said, I can display his calendar in any color that I wish. I've created an event on his calendar, and it would display the color of what I have his events in his calendar. If he was to create an event in my calendar, it would display in my calendar with my color, and on his device display in the color that he has my calendar displayed as.

The shared calendar experience may be different, as I've never done one that way before, but then, I'm not sure if is really any different than us sharing each other's calendar.

In the long run though, as the OP requested, his event could be in one color and the wife's events in another.

I'm using a shared calendar that was created with Family Sharing. I am unable to change the color of the events my wife creates vs. ones I've created. So it sounds like it might depend if you are on Family Sharing or not.

That is correct. I don't use Family Sharing, we just share the calendar. With that, I can display a calendar in whatever color I want, so it doesn't matter what the creator's calendar is on their device, I can display it in whatever color I want on mine. Good discussion! 🙂

Based on what ChrisJ4203 has said, I have a theory.

On your iPhone have a calendar that you share with your wife which she accepts.

On your wife's iPhone have her create a calendar that she share's with you and which you accept.

When she creates an event, have her create them under the calendar which she shared with you rather than the one you shared with her. If my theory is correct, you will essentially have 2 shared calendars but when she creates them using the one shared with you, they would be a different color. I'm going to test this when I get home with my wife's iPhone.

anypats wrote:

I have a theory.

Good luck with that. I look forward to see what you have to say. I can add that to my toolbox of information regarding Family Sharing, since I don't use that feature.

My theory is correct. I created a new calendar on my wife's iPhone and shared it with me. I accepted and now appointments she adds are in a different color.

Good to hear. I'm guessing this is because you both have different Apple IDs, as my son and I do. Great to hear it worked for you.

Yeah, both have different Apple IDs. If we each create a calendar and share, we can do different colors. If we use the Family Share calends we can only use one color.

Here's how I set it up:

1. Open Calendars app
2. Select Calendars at the bottom of the app
3. Select Edit at the top Left
4. Under iCloud select Add Calendar
5. Create Calendar name such as Shared with Wife
6. Select the new calendar
7. Select Add Person
8. Enter your wife's Apple ID to share this calendar with her
9. Your wife should get a notice asking to accept your shared calendar
10. Have your wife repeat steps 1-8 on her iPhone but call the calendar something different.

You should now be able to select which color you want your calendar items to be and what color you want your wife's entries to be. The most important thing is that she creates the calendar items under the calendar she shared with you. If she creates them under the calendar you shared with her, they will show up all in the same color. If you want to change the default calendar used, go to Settings | Mail, Contacts, Calendars ans scroll all the way to the bottom and select Default Calendar. If your default is the one shared with her and her default is the one shared with you then everything should go smoothly. You can even go and change events that have already been entered to the new calendars/colors.