i have the disk for it, and it won't let me install it to update it.
Is the installer disk giving you the warning "Certificate expired" or similar? You could change the system date back to the year when you purchased the installer, and install this version, but it is no use, because you cannot update this version to Aperture 3.6.
The installer disk will install Aperture 3.1, a version that can no longer be updated anyway. Aperture is no longer sold from the App Store, and you can only install Aperture from your Purchases history at the App Store. This will install Aperture 3.6. Updating is not possible any longer.
all are the current versions of them
Does that mean, you haveMacOS X 10.11.4 installed, and Aperture 3.6?
If you have Aperture 3.6 installed on your iMac, copy Aperture 3.6 from the Applications folder on your iMac to a thumbs drive, then copy it into the Applications folder on your MacBook Pro (or the Applications folder in your Home folder, if the system will not let you copy it into the main Applications folder).