How the I get my iPad to look identical to my iphone

Yes, make an iPhone backup using computer iTunes then with your iPad restore from iPhone backup.

Note:

Data that won't transfer from one kind of device to another

When you restore a device from a backup of another kind of device, like using an iPad backup for an iPhone, certain types of data won't transfer:

• Photos
• Messages and attachments in Messages
• Voice Memos
• Apps that aren't compatible with the device you’re setting up (For example, apps compatible only with iPad won't be transferred to your iPhone.)

A quick addendum to ckuan's remark above:

Your profile says you are running Lion (OS X 10.7) which was introduced in 2011. If true, assuming you are running the current iOS version, you have a significant issue, as Lion is too old to support the current version of iTunes. Current iTunes is required to support current iOS.

Therefore, if you are that far behind with OS X, you must upgrade OS X, then update iTunes before proceeding.