The correct positioning is matched pairs in adjacent slots on the same riser-card.
That RAM appears to be hp Server RAM, which is intended for a computer whose fans are roaring away in a server room. If you do get it working, it is extremely likely to overheat and fail in your Mac, where the correct Heatsinks are HUGE multi-layered metal things so large that they barely allow space between them when installed. Your Mac pro is a Server-class computer, but is intended for an office environment where the fans are turned way down.
Your Mac Pro with Xeon processor uses its error-correction very aggressively at Startup. Any modules with any sort of errors during the power-On Self test will be listed as slots "empty" in this display:
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