so I guess using non standard RAM chips is causing this problem to occur?
That depends on which "non-standard RAM" you installed. Apple does not make RAM--they buy from established RAM manufacturers, commonly Samsung. Hynix, and Micron. Trusted third-party RAM vendors like Other World Computing ("OWC"--my first choice) or Crucial sell good RAM that will work in your Mac. All our Macs have RAM upgraded from OWC and we have never had an issue.
Not all RAM is created equally. There are many reports here of people having trouble after installing PNY, Corsair, or Kingston "ValueRAM." The latter maker sells two grades of RAM with ValueRAM being the low-cost option. They make a standard level of RAM that works in Macs but is hard to find. The RAM business is so price-sensitive that resellers don't seem to carry the Kingston RAM that works in Macs. You can tell if you have Kingston Value RAM because the model number on the module will start with "KVR"
So what brand did you install?