Hello and welcome to Apple Support Communities, Winterberrylevy.
If I understand your post correctly, you are getting a prompt to ask permission for app downloads. I'm happy to help.
First, tap Settings > iTunes & App Store and confirm the Apple ID used there. Then use that Apple ID to log into the Manage your Apple ID page. Make sure that your date of birth is correct.
The Ask to Buy feature is part of Family Sharing. The family organizer can turn it off with these steps:
Turn on Ask to Buy
The family organizer can turn on Ask to Buy for any family member who isn't an adult. It's on by default for any children under 13, and you'll be asked to set up Ask to Buy when inviting anyone under 18 to your family group.*
Use these steps to turn Ask to Buy on or off for family members who are under 18* in your family group. If you turn off Ask to Buy for a family member after they turn 18,* you can't turn it on again.
iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
- Tap Settings > iCloud > Family and tap your family member's name.
- Tap Ask to Buy.
Mac
- Choose Apple menu > System Preferences > iCloud.
- Click Manage Family and select your family member's name.
- Select Ask to Buy.
If you created your child's account using Apple ID for Students, you can use Ask to Buy for personal purchases outside of the educational institution. It won't apply to any apps or other content distributed by the school.
For more information see the full article here:
Request and make purchases with Ask to Buy​
Let us know if that resolves this issue for you.
Thanks for using the Apple Support Communities. Take care.