I have tried all the reset options,but it is still not detected by my airport extreme basestation and just flashes amber.
If you reset the AirPort back to factory default settings.......then it will not be detected by the AirPort Extreme.
If the AirPort Express is working correctly after the reset.....it must first be detected by the AirPort Utility setup "wizard" on your Mac......so you can set up the Express again to connect to the AirPort Extreme either by wireless or a wired Ethernet connection.
You get the setup "wizard" running by clicking on the WiFi menu on your Mac and looking for a listing of New AirPort Base Station. Just under that listing, click directly on AirPort Express and wizard will open up and guide you through.

Now, if you are saying that AirPort Express does not appear under New AirPort Base Station, and you have reset the Express a number of times.....then the Express is likely defective.