homekit remote access (problem with myself)

Hi there, i know, that apple disabled third user remote access.

But... since a few days i can´t connect myself remotely.

I have remote access (hue and tado) with the native apps and it works well over Wifi. Siri commands working propperly too (over wifi)

The home app says i'm connected with my apple TV.

is there a way to reset homekit completely.?

Or did apple cut remote access for everybody ?

Thanks for your help.

Christian