My iPad is telling me it’s disabled and needs to connect to itunes but when I go on itunes it says to allow access to iTunes I need to click something on my iPad but I Dante because it’s disabled ?

It's too late to take a new backup of it and/or copy any content off it, you will have to reset it back to factory defaults and then either restore to your last backup or just resync your content to it.

Use recovery mode, see partway down this page : If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your device is disabled - Apple Support

Hello from Central Texas! Unfortunately, I was looking for info about Mac support for a networking technology called "Dante," essentially, A/V (or at least "A") over Ethernet, massively simplifying connectivity between hundreds, even thousands of devices. That has nothing to do with the answer, which I assume is correct regarding resetting Apple devices to factory defaults and restoring to the last backup the user performed, because the question erroneously contained the word "Dante," as in,

"Q: My iPad is telling me it’s disabled and needs to connect to itunes but when I go on itunes it says to allow access to iTunes I need to click something on my iPad but I Dante because it’s disabled ?"

Somehow or another, the original word the poster intended became "Dante," which in this context is meaningless on the topic of A/V networking over Ethernet. I still don't know if any version of the Mac OS supports Dante, including critical media manipulation technologies like Logic Pro.

So, King_Penguin, love your original answer in the context of what the poster meant, rather than what was actually, confusingly asked. I just wish you - if you're in the company - cleared up the confusion over the word Dante, which was picked up as the top result of an Apple Support search return. Know anything about Mac support for Dante, actual Dante?

I just wish you - if you're in the company

I'm just a fellow user, these are user forums. And no, I don't know anything about Dante. have you tried contacting Audinate : https://www.audinate.com/resources/faqs

K_P, thanks for your response. I'm not a veteran of the user forums, quite the opposite, and I appreciate your taking the time and effort responding.

I just looked at the link you thoughtfully provided. There isn't much about using Dante - apparently a small system of different interfaces based on function - but what there is indicates a Mac's sound input (not sure about iOS) may be manually configured for Dante as an input source. I don't have the slightest idea how well that works, esp. w/Thunderbolt 3 and an Ethernet adapter as the mandatory intermediaries on a MacBook Pro. Along with many others, I question the wisdom of Apple NOT providing a single Ethernet port, at least, in addition to the Thunderbolt 3 ports in MacBook Pros, given its ubiquity and in Gigabit Ethernet, the attraction of "auto-negotiation" and one hopes, a successfully completed "handshake." It's a speedy networking technology packaged rather simply, far faster than Thunderbolt 3.

It may not permit adequately powering devices, 4K and 5K monitors and such, even though it is theoretically Twenty-Five times faster over Gigabit... Dante seems like it would be a panacea for quite a few years as a wired, networking technology but people do want power transmission and other Thunderbolt features, that's certainly true. Thanks again!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dante_(networking)