apple ID issues

Im suspecting apple id issues. Due to my sending iMessages that Im told are never making it to receiver. Deleting my verizon voice messages that keep returning once deleted. Also, Ive made a few ical app that as soon as saving new ical event. It was no longer to be found. What the heck? What do I do now?

I dont want to change my apple ID b/c Its my name, I have no plans for marriage any time soon. Help?