Apple controls this? Want to provide the proof that it does? Oh wait you can't. That's a violation of the forum rules. Apple does not control this. You have been told so by people who have been here and dealt with this far more and far longer than I have. My phone either has 3G or LTE. That's it and that's with my providers carrier file installed. If I complained even once about this, I would be eaten alive, and not even the bones would be left.
As for your second sentence, it's painfully obvious. Yell at your provider to update it's infastructure. If the spectrum is already saturated, go complain to the Government and get them to auction off more of it. It's also very obvious you don't have Carrier (Band) Aggregation, so we won't go into that.
My provider was mostly Band 4 UMTS (AWS-1) and Band 66 LTE (AWS-3). They bought spectrum (Band 7 (IMT-E) and Band 13 (SMH Upper Block C)) from another provider which the Government of Canada approved. They had 10X10 on the Band 4 UMTS channel. My provider split this off with 5X5 Band 4 LTE and the other 5X5 UMTS.
The third sentence I find extremely amusing, considering you have 1000 GE ES43ACMi locomotives on order, that are part of the Evolution Series Family, and the most technologically advanced AC locomotives on the market (you can thank the ES44AC, ES44DC and ES44C4 for that), yet you're telling me that it's a "market" (2G) that the cell phone carriers can't afford to lose? 2G was decommissioned in Canada. The spectrum for that was repurposed for LTE. You think anyone here has a 2G phone? Maybe in a museum or something. Paperweight, door stop, wheel chock, whatever.
Once again, yell at your provider. You'll eventually get those people off the 2G pipe. Repurpose that for LTE. Not rocket science. See my example above.
The time will come to start either kicking people off 2G or forcing them off. I prefer kicking them off gradually. Your providers cannot afford to have that nonsense carry on indefinitely, especially if you are craving speed.
Of course for you people that have been on here longer than me, you know what to do.