Apple Mail auto-checking even when set not to
Hi
I have a mac pro and a macbook pro. I set up my mail so the laptop only downloads mail from my imap accounts manually - and only use it occasionally. Normally I only open Mail to send an email, don't actually want to download mail. The mac pro auto downloads in the normal way. Suddenly after years of the laptop doing what I expected, it has taken to auto-downloading. It is stil set to check mail manually, it just doesn't do it that way. As soon as I open mail, it downloads. I then can't delete the mail without it also disappearing from my desktop as well, when all I really want to do is stop Mail filling up my modestly sized hard drive. I googled this behaviour and found various old posts about advanced settings which can control the mailbox behaviours individually, but the preferences seem to have changed since then and the advanced tab they talk about isn't there any more. I think this behaviour started with the 10.13.4 update.
Can anyone help please?
MacBook Pro with Retina display, macOS High Sierra (10.13), MacBook Pro 13" retina