my ipad is disabled due to multi time wrong passcode entry, i received a message saying" Ipad is disabled connect to itunes?

You will need to connect the iPad to the computer that you normally sync to and you should then be able to reset the iPad and restore/re-sync your content to it (http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1212) - you may need to put the iPad into recovery mode in order to be able to reset it : http://support.apple.com/kb/ht1808

If you do it via a different computer then :

If you restore on a different computer that was never synced with the device, you will be able to unlock the device for use and remove the passcode, but your data will not be present.

I am using a different computer, but it is telling me, "to allow access respond on you ipad". I can't because I forget the password, that is why it's disabled. any suggestions?

Try recovery mode as described towards the bottom of this page : iOS: Forgot passcode or device disabled

If you don't have a backup on that computer, then do you have an iCloud backup that you could then restore to ?