Same problem (reboot when awakening from sleep).
Didn't happen every time I woke up the machine, but frequently.
I did the power manager reset (shut down while in Finder, disconnect all cables and the power cord, leave with no power for > 15 seconds, plug cables back in, reboot).
Thus far, the box now wakes up from sleep without doing an unexpected reboot.
I have no third party RAM, but I do have several USB devices of varying age (Soundsticks speakers, and an early 17" Mac LCD that requires the ADC->DVI converter to get power to the display and video/USB from the display; the display won't power up the computer by pushing the power icon below the screen, even though the light there pulses briefly when I press on the bezel at that location).
There must be a HUGE matrix of things that people "might" attach to their computers by USB. Hard to imagine they could all be tested in combinations to verify that none of them will put unanticipated power loads on the motherboard when asked to respond to a a "wake from sleep" request.
I'll post again if my Mac Pro starts rebooting when awakened. By the way, I don't have any 3rd party RAM yet (most vendors say they're building it and will have some "soon."