Answering myself ....
I have made a micro-website to ease the process, it will install a "profile" and make the VPN thru 3G/edge work directly. ( *FIDO only for now* )
This is not a hack, this is based on Apple's specs, publically posted.
Just visit
http://www.jflaflamme.com/iphone *from your iPhone*
(WEBPAGE WILL WORK FROM IPHONE ONLY)
Feel free to send my .mobileconfig from other carriers to jflaflamme on the gmail dot com website and i will add them.
I feel like i just did my carrier work for free ...
Thanks to tazmtl for his link to the APN settings in
http://discussions.apple.com/thread.jspa?messageID=7765146#7765146
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